What if you were pregnant, but didn’t even know how you got that way? What if you were giving birth, but didn’t know where the baby came out?
Imagine going to the hospital to have your baby, but having no idea what lay ahead, and having no loving friend or family member to help you through.
Most of us do have the basic information about pregnancy and childbirth. We know how the baby got there, and how it will make his/her way out. We live in a culture where women are open about their bodies, share their birthing stories, and pass on the latest information and advice. But what if you come from a different culture, that does not talk openly about sex, pregnancy, or birth?
I recently spoke to a woman who came from such a background and went through her first pregnancy and birth just as I described, having no idea how she got pregnant or how a woman gave birth. Her partner wasn’t allowed in the hospital room, and the whole experience was extremely traumatic for her. She is now doing things differently with her daughters, hoping to create an atmosphere of openness and respect.
Not everyone has access to much needed information or a network of support. Many don’t know that doulas are available to provide information, navigate the many childbirth options, and provide physical and emotional support during labor and birth.
For those just beginning your pregnancy journeys, whatever your background and culture, here are my top 3 ways to enhance your experience:
- Informed consent. Ask questions. Your care providers will do their best to take care of you and your baby, but they don’t have all the answers. Understand the risks and alternatives to any procedures being suggested, and choose what you feel is best.
- Support. Having a doula at your birth is a great way to ensure you have the support you need at the most exciting yet vulnerable time of your life. If you can’t hire a doula, have a partner, friend, or family member there who is on your side, can remind you of your choices and options and has learned a few comfort techniques to help you through.
- Childbirth Education. If you can, sign up for childbirth education classes. There is so much you don’t know you don’t know! There are many different classes offered. Choose one that fits your personality and budget. If you can’t afford the class of your choice, most local hospitals offer free or low cost classes that will give you the basics.
Most importantly… don’t forget to stop and marvel… a baby comes out there!